Being a parent of the child is never been easy. Father and Child Relationship is the most challenging job but the most rewarding.
Father and Child Relationship
It is rightly said that “Raising a child is not a child’s play.” Both the parents matter a great deal for the overall development of their child. But unfortunately, we tend to come across examples that are severely affected by the communication gaps and that too most commonly between a father and a son. It is often seen that a Father, in the early childhood days gives less attention and develop less parenting goals for his child.
The reason might be a fear for him to be compared to his wife in means of communicating with his child. He might think left over and develop a constant impression that there is a mother who only matters in a certain starting age of childhood. The main problem of negligence from his part starts here.
A father fails to communicate with his child from the early childhood days and as the time grows and the period turns into adolescence, the adverse effects seem to troll on the way. This can be removed if father’s will is present and he involves making an appreciable difference in his child’s overall development. In my view, I don’t find any difference in the way both the parents speak to their children. Their problem-solving skills might differ. Father’s have a unique chance to be influential in their son’s lives. On the other side daughter’s find they more related to their mother at the time of their adolescence.
A father can calmly handle the situation by coming down to his son’s mental level and help him during his early childhood days. He can remind himself of his own days when he was in his adolescent son’s age and deal with him accordingly. However a father needs to understand patiently about his son’s point of view in younger age and on the count of his experience in this age, he needs to tackle the situations accordingly. If a father remains rigid and sticks to his decisions and points, this will never end. All the rigidness from parents side makes your children feel you are a dictator who wants things your way. Their young minds rebel when you intrude into their private world.
Some Children often give the following main reasons for this gap:
- My parents want me to be their mirror image neglecting the fact that they too are individuals with entirely different perspective.
- My father wants to remain whole sole dictator and wants things like his way.
- My father makes boundaries like an army personnel.
- My father has a lot of expectations from me and he doesn’t want to hear my view points.
Ways to remove this gap are as under:
Time Devotion: Father should devote sufficient time to his kids whether on an early childhood or on adolescent age.
Be good and active listener: This time will not come again, cuddle with them, play with them, listen to them, be their friends, their childhood will not remain for long.
Bond with your children: Unlike mothers, fathers also need to motivate this strong bond.
Be flexible with your ideas: Fathers needs to be flexible with the ways of tackling the situations.
Stop scolding: Father’s needs to stop scolding or implementing warning all the time. They have to keep their patience and talk calmly with their kids.
Role Model: Fathers need to set themselves as an ideal not dictators. Kids try to learn what we are doing in our day to day life. The kids are watching our activities and behave like us. If we are shouting or abusing, our kids start the same thing quickly. We need to change our behavior to make our kids become better human beings.
The bridging communication gap between the father and a child needs to be made in this fast era of technology as well. Unlike the things let go their way, father’s need to mobilize their way of thinking fueling to motivate their son’s to make them gentleman. This will surely helps to revive their relationship.