No one knows where their life will go and how they will get where they plan to be. Life certainly has a habit of changing suddenly, causing us to re-evaluate everything and occasionally change direction altogether. This can be stressful, and it often causes concern for those having to make these changes or deal with these issues.
However, no matter what is happening, it’s crucial to appreciate life and be thankful for it and whatever you have right now. If you’re always looking for the next thing or working towards a new goal, you’ll never see what’s right around you, and you’ll miss out. When you look back on your life, there won’t be much to see. That’s why you need to be thankful for the here and now and, although working on making your future a bright one is important, never forget to appreciate the present. Read on to find out how you can do this and why it is so important so you can truly make the most of the life you have.
You Can’t Go Back
When you look back at your past, what do you feel? You might feel regret because you made mistakes, and those mistakes can inform everything you do in the present and the future. You might not want to take any chances now because of something that happened in the past. Perhaps you blame your past for issues in the present.
Another aspect of the past is that you loved the life you had then so much, whether it was your childhood or earlier in your adulthood, and you miss it. Again, when this is the case, you’ll spend so much time reminiscing that you’ll miss out on what’s happening right now, which, if you gave it a chance, could be just as good and would make for some more wonderful memories when you’re older.
In either case, the past – whether positive or negative – can easily be a reason why you aren’t appreciating life right now and you aren’t thankful for what you have. If this is the case, there is one thing you need to remember: you can’t go back. You can’t go back and change the errors you made to make things easier, and you can’t go back to relive the good times. By wishing that you could go back, you’ll be wasting the present time and never move forward, which would be a shame.
Instead of regretting or spending all your time thinking about the past, use that time as a lesson. If you made mistakes, remember not to do a similar thing again so that the present can be better. If you enjoyed the time in the past, remember that feeling and try to make the present just as fun.
You Can Change Things
As noted above, you can’t go back and change things in your past, no matter how much you might want to, and that’s a crucial lesson to learn. However, you can change the present, and that’s just as important to remember. In other words, if you’re not happy with your current situation, change it.
This sounds simple, and in some cases, it will be, but even if it will take time and effort to make those changes, it’s still worth doing. In order to be thankful in life and to appreciate what you have, you need to be happy and fulfilled. If any aspect of your life is not allowing you to feel that way, it must be changed. It could be your job, your money situation, your relationship, or anything else.
Make a list of the things that you are not happy with in life so you can see what has to be changed. Once you know what is wrong, work out what’s most important – what is causing you the most issues? That’s the thing to work on first. Take that problem and research ways to make it better. For example, if your relationship is a bad one, it’s time to take a break or split altogether to reassess – it might be that you’ll be happier alone, even if that’s hard. Remember, you don’t have to be in a relationship to be a whole person, and if you feel lonely, there are women at Essex Escorts whose company you can enjoy without the need for a relationship. For some, this is a better solution. Perhaps it’s your job that’s the issue. In that case, what is it you need to change? Do you need to work in a different company? Start an entirely new career? Work for yourself? Once you know, you can put measures in place to get there.
There is no need to be stressed about a situation if it’s one you can change, and in most cases, it will be, even if it takes time and effort to do it.
You’ll Waste Time
As we’ve said, a lot of people wade through life just waiting and hoping for the next thing to happen. They are always looking to the future and never focusing on the present. Although planning for the future is important, and it’s good to have goals to reach, that doesn’t mean you should forget about what’s happening right now. If you do, you’ll just waste the little time you have.
Here are some examples. Perhaps you don’t like your college course so you’re always looking forward to graduation. However, when this is the case, not only will you not be working hard on the course, but when you do graduate, you’ll have a degree in something you don’t like, meaning you’ll be working in a career you don’t like, and so it goes on. If you look at the present, you’ll be able to make changes to a different course or work out ways to make the one you’re on better, improving not just the present but the future, too.
You’re In Control
One of the reasons why some people feel overwhelmed with their lives and therefore take solace in the future or the past rather than focusing on the present is that they feel they are lacking control. This is not a pleasant feeling, and it can cause stress and anxiety. It can certainly make people less than thankful for their current situation.
However, it’s crucial to remember that you are in control. Just take a step back from the situation and look at it objectively, and you’ll see that no one and nothing has any power over you unless you allow it. By putting yourself back in control, it will be easier to be thankful for the things you have in your life, and you’ll be much more positive in general.
When you aren’t appreciative of what you have in life and you feel that everything is negative, it’s easy to blame other people and things for the problem. You allow them to have control over your life when you do this, however, and that will make things worse. Take back control and change what needs to be changed, and you will be much more thankful and in a better position in your life as a whole.
No One Is Perfect
Perhaps the reason that you aren’t thankful for your life and the things in it and the opportunities open to you is that you feel you’re not good enough. Other people always get ahead of you, they seem to be doing better in life, they’re always happy and enjoying themselves, and you feel you are left behind because you’re not on the same level as them.
This is such an easy mindset to get into but a much harder one to get out of. Once you start feeling you’re not good enough, you’ll stop trying to be better, and it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
It’s crucial to remember, though, that no one is perfect. That means you, but it also means absolutely everyone else. Those people whose lives you covet and who seem to be so much further ahead than you have flaws, and they will probably feel the same way as you do. Of course, social media means that it’s easy to hide those flaws and portray a perfect version of your life, and this can be a problem – what you see is probably not the whole story, meaning that it’s hard to see flaws, making you feel much further behind everyone else.
Human beings are innately flawed, but as long as we try our best, learn from our mistakes, and keep being thankful for what we have, no matter what it is, we can be happy. This is a vital lesson to keep in mind and one that will help you whenever you’re feeling down.